My Girlfriend Is Incapable of Loving Me
Dear Dr. Been There,
I can’t explain how perfectly your article, "Partners Incapable of Love" describes my relationship with my girlfriend. In the beginning I was the object of her affection, the love of her life, the man of her dreams. A couple months down the road and I start seeing a change and hearing about her past with her father that left and alcohol issues and abusive exes. Read more...
Help! My Parents are Narcissists
Dear Dr. Been There,
Thank you for the article, "How Codependents Leave an Abusive Narcissistic Relationships." I am a 49-year-old single male who has spent the last 25 years reading everything I can to discover why I’m feeling what I’m feeling…why something’s wrong with me…my perceptions. In this last year I came upon something that I’d never considered before. A notion that at first was hard to grasp but gradually became clear. My parents are narcissists. Read more...
Mom Concerned about Daughter Living with Abusive Father
Dear Dr. Been There,
My kids spend 50% of their time with their father, who I believe is a passive-aggressive narcissist. I find myself doing damage control with the oldest, who is 14. I think he tries to use guilt and shame to control her. My real concern is with the youngest, who is 12. She is a people pleaser. Read more...
Going Crazy with a Narcissistic Boss
Dear Dr. Been There,
Great insight! (How to Leave Employment with a Narcissistic Boss). I am working with a cccrrrazzzzyyyy narcissist! QUESTION: What causes or attributes to Narcissism? More importantly, if you work for a narcissist, and you depend on them for your job, what do you do to maintain your job security, at the same time, deal with such insanity? Please help! Read more...
Setting Boundaries with a Narcissistic Mom and an Alcoholic Father
Dear Dr. Been There,
I am struggling with a mother who is a passive aggressive narcissist in denial. My father is an alcoholic and a puppet that she controls (which most likely stimulates his drinking.) I am the age of 33 and have had unhealthy relationships my whole life, unknowingly attracted to narcissists. Read more...
